This is a work in progress as of 1 September and will very quickly contain more information. I intend to get most of the basics in by mid September and then add posts as they come to me. Please feel free to email or post a comment below.
Welcome to this blog which is aimed primarily for men, like me, who have heard those three little words, ‘you have cancer’. It is NOT meant to be a definitive or official guide and is NOT affiliated to any organisation. It is purely the thoughts of a man (me ) who has been through the journey and treatment of cancer and gained some insights into making life more bearable when the going gets tough. I hope that in these pages you will find something which will help or aid you or your loved one through difficult and challenging times. I wish you love and respect.
I was diagnosed with Intra-vascular B Cell Lymphoma in December 2010 and after treatment with R Chop Chemotherapy over a period of 4 months I was given the good news that I was cancer free. These times were ( and sometimes continue to be ) extremely arduous and frustrating but now, being in remission, I have the luxury of hindsight. I will be passing on what I think could be useful information to any men who find themselves in a similar situation.
The first thing to say and in no way flippantly, in the now famous words of Douglas Adams, ‘Don’t Panic!’, ask questions of your doctor.
Obviously this is a far easier thing to say with the benefit of hindsight, however it is a true reflection of my feelings from the day I was told by my consultant that I had cancer. It is possible/probable that anyone receiving a diagnosis of cancer will go through a torrent of emotions and that the words,’you have cancer’ will have a wide range of effects including devastation, disbelief, anger, fear, denial, apathy and many, many more. Whatever you feel is exactly that and is not wrong. Everyone will react differently but my suggestion stood me in good stead at the diagnosis stage and all the way through treatment to the present day.
As I listened to those words being spoken to me back in December 2010, a thousand questions sprang to mind, intermingled with horrible thoughts of my past life, death, joy and suffering not only for me but for my family and loved ones.I decided to take a deep breath and concentrate on the present moment, on what was being said and what I could find out from my consultant.
This then is how my first thought came about, ‘Don’t Panic! Listen to your doctor and ask lots of questions.
What you ask at this point can be anything and please, please take the time you think you need. Armed with information from your doctor you will feel more confident about your situation and be better armed to face the journey. All through my treatment I would ask questions of anyone who I thought could provide me with information. I have written a separate page of questions and answers which you may find helpful. Please feel free to email or comment below. I promise to reply.